<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[James Simson]]></title><description><![CDATA[Counselling, training and coaching clients for over 30 years]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Fri, 10 Apr 2026 02:02:03 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://anglaisprofessionel.jamesthecoach.net/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[The mechanics of relationship sabotage through an IFS lens (Internal Family Systems)]]></title><description><![CDATA[or How intimacy can feel in IFS terms Recent experience is showing me how groups of manager parts in my inner life arrive in a defensive cascade in reaction to the arrival of new partner.  I am not talking about a first date, I am referring to a relationship that has traction, where there is growing trust, intimacy and connection. When someone starts to get close, there are groups of parts that see the new presence as a threat bringing the risk of disappointment, fear of abandonment, fear of...]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/single-post/the-mechanics-of-relationship-sabotage-through-an-ifs-lens-internal-family-systems</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6999daeab89ac23fa77a384c</guid><pubDate>Sat, 21 Feb 2026 16:21:53 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>jamessimsoncoaching</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Working through blocks using IFS]]></title><description><![CDATA[I believe that a good Coach can help a client identify and work more constructively with their blocks to personal and professional...]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/single-post/working-through-blocks-using-ifs</link><guid isPermaLink="false">646f30d0ddf7a8423e9a04b4</guid><pubDate>Thu, 25 May 2023 11:03:31 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>jamessimsoncoaching</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Easy Listening is not as easy as we might think]]></title><description><![CDATA[Listening is an art that can be learned. Few are born with it.  When we truly listen to another person we are developing a skill that...]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/single-post/easy-listening-is-not-as-easy-as-we-might-think</link><guid isPermaLink="false">641c91692f7ed50ba35824bd</guid><pubDate>Thu, 23 Mar 2023 17:59:40 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>jamessimsoncoaching</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The next step]]></title><description><![CDATA[The importance of the next step I have been thinking about inertia, the illusory comfort of not moving and here are some of my thoughts. ...]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/single-post/the-next-step</link><guid isPermaLink="false">63ee033a6702270798104b3a</guid><pubDate>Thu, 16 Feb 2023 10:57:38 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/8625ec_07ba3b38627d4ba7a0ced0f0e2e20ac6~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_402,h_276,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>jamessimsoncoaching</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Working with the effects of Trauma]]></title><description><![CDATA[Coaching and working with the effects of trauma. We were all invited to be curious during Coach training with CTI.  A question had been...]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/single-post/working-with-the-effects-of-trauma</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6369347abc1e3f4edf599b71</guid><pubDate>Mon, 07 Nov 2022 16:47:02 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2e0221_096df0daa08f4150aa3ffd2ef6ab4948~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>jamessimsoncoaching</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Getting grounded]]></title><description><![CDATA[Overthinking can keep us stuck.  Our minds seem to take over and put a false spin on reality, sometimes generating feelings of fear and...]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/single-post/getting-grounded</link><guid isPermaLink="false">62ab22c7e1b8ba651ce92a11</guid><pubDate>Thu, 16 Jun 2022 12:40:12 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>jamessimsoncoaching</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How can Coaching help with low self-esteem?]]></title><description><![CDATA[How can Coaching help with low self-esteem? Low self-esteem comes in many packages:  addictions, self-negation, relationship failure,...]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/single-post/how-can-coaching-help-with-low-self-esteem</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6251698f5eda7582d5ea83ee</guid><pubDate>Sat, 09 Apr 2022 11:11:57 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/23c6ed3f5e614c09b28a14d774acf206.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>James Simson</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Leaning in to the discomfort of change.  Change can be whatever you tell yourself it is, or can it? ]]></title><description><![CDATA[Leaning in to the discomfort of change.  Change can be whatever you tell yourself it is, or can it? Flash to a manager trying to convince...]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/single-post/leaning-in-to-the-discomfort-of-change-change-can-be-whatever-you-tell-yourself-it-is-or-can-it</link><guid isPermaLink="false">60d04f0f136c5a0015708650</guid><pubDate>Mon, 21 Jun 2021 08:56:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2e0221_f4ffd074563a4df9b2c1bb2dd030e03b~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_550,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>James Simson</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How a small decision can turn your life around]]></title><description><![CDATA[How a small decision can turn your life around It is said that the devil is in the detail.  The make or break can often be tracked back...]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/single-post/2016/05/03/how-a-small-decision-can-turn-your-life-around</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5f696dd490f2370018a5c29d</guid><pubDate>Sat, 31 Mar 2018 17:07:28 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/8625ec_57f310b25d8046769a0d104f29a40c16~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_827,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>James Simson</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[10 ways to start taking excellent care of yourself]]></title><description><![CDATA[10 ways to start taking excellent care of yourself In a busy world we are all working towards a better use of our time and resources. ...]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/single-post/2016/05/03/10-ways-to-start-loving-yourself-the-way-you-deserve-to-be-loved</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5f696dd490f2370018a5c29e</guid><pubDate>Wed, 14 Mar 2018 11:26:50 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2e0221_601a7e11820244fc82397de249dad45b~mv2_d_5472_3648_s_4_2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>James Simson</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Some personal experience with humility]]></title><description><![CDATA[https://www.facebook.com/The-Good-School-Survivors-guide-793882253985046]]></description><link>https://www.jamesthecoach.net/single-post/2016/05/03/learn-how-to-free-yourself-from-anxieties-with-these-8-easy-steps</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5f696dd490f2370018a5c29f</guid><pubDate>Thu, 08 Oct 2015 12:14:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2e0221_a81d2a1f614b4a3696333569431812a5~mv2_d_2318_3090_s_2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>James Simson</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>